Today is day two of the Love Dare and it is about kindness and patience. The definition of kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. It also defines kindness as the act of going out of your way to be nice to someone or show a person you care.
In the book “The Love Dare” it states, “Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a blessing.” These two acts of the heart and will are married together. I can’t imagine it is possible to have one without the other, yet I have tried several times “with no success I might add”, to be patient without kindness.
A few weeks ago, I was teaching our children about initiative verses unresponsiveness. I explained to them, “Taking initiative is recognizing and doing what needs to be done before we’re asked to do it.” I went on to say, “Unresponsiveness is defined by vocabulary.com as: marked by a failure to respond quickly or with emotion to people or events.”
I gave an example to them. “The toy room has toys all over the floor and you see it needs to be cleaned, so you take initiative and clean the room all on your own without anyone asking you to.” Then I gave them an example of unresponsiveness. “You walk by and your brother asks you for help opening something and you ignore him and keep walking, that is unresponsiveness.”
These things we teach to our children and may even say to other people because they are true, but yet when faced with these very same truths myself I struggle. I am a selfish person by nature and I struggle to be patient and kind with people especially if it is not reciprocated.
In the Love Dare book it states, “But love in its truest sense is not based on feelings.” “Rather, love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward.” “You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness.”
This truth is a hard pill to swallow. I have often based my actions of showing kindness and love to others by how I feel and if they deserve it. When I look back over my own life I am reminded most of the times when I was shown love and patience when I didn’t deserve it, but yet I justify my lack of patience and kindness because, “They don’t deserve it, look what they did to me.”
Colossians 3:12-15 says: Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.
Today my prayer for all of us is this, Lord Jesus we need you to fill us up today with patience and kindness. Help us to love our neighbor as ourselves. Let only words bathed in kindness flow from our lips. Show us the needs of other people above our own. Help us to not base our love and actions on our feelings or our own rights. Show us tangibly how we can be kind to our husband’s today. God give us eyes to see the needs and the strength to take the initiative to do what we may not feel like doing. Today heap on our heads patience in great measure, that we can’t possibly understand. Well up in us kindness flowing out of us like a mighty river. Jesus we need your Holy Spirit in us today as we can’t do this in our own strength. Protect our marriages, our children, and our hearts. May all we do and say bring you glory in Jesus name amen.