Today is day four of the Love Dare challenge. Today the book is talking about how Love is thoughtful. The definition of thoughtful is absorbed in or involving thought, occupied with or given to thought; contemplative; meditative; reflective. When I think of being thoughtful I think of being kind, considerate, and loving, but none of those words define thoughtful.
We have to be intentional about what we think about. We need to be women whom deliberately think good thoughts about our husband’s and not meditate or reflect on past hurts or areas where our husband’s may have fallen short in their own eyes. We easily can be drawn into reflecting on our husband’s admitted past mistakes instead of offering prayer and forgiveness.
God has created us to be our husband’s helpers. On purpose we need to set our minds and thinking on good memories, great attributes, and positive thoughts about our spouse’s.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me- put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
Today in the Love Dare the book explained how, “Women think and speak between the lines.” As women, we have a tendency to think a thought but then share only half of what we were thinking, all the while fully believing we shared everything we were thinking.
For example in the next paragraph I will give you a possible scenario. The events and words in this conversation are completely fictional and any resemblance to real events are purely coincidental….
I think in my head hamburgers sound great for dinner. My husband comes home and says, “How about tacos for dinner?” I reply, “No, I am not in the mood for tacos, maybe something else on the barbeque or the grill.” He responds, “Chicken?” I am totally frustrated that he didn’t get it, and I respond, “No, chicken doesn’t sound good either.” This conversation may go on for an extended amount of time with me thinking I shared with him that I wanted hamburgers for dinner. But in fact I never did say I wanted hamburgers for dinner I thought it but never actually expressed it. I hinted it. He couldn’t possibly have known I wanted hamburgers unless I told him those exact words.
Lord Jesus I pray for every person reading this today. Let us be people who think thoughts that are glorifying to you about other people. Help us to fix our eyes on you, your word and your truth. Help us to take our thoughts captive and discard any thought that doesn’t line up with your truth. Help us to communicate clearly what we think and helps us mean what we say. Let us be slow to speak and ponder the words we say, before we release them from our lips. Let the meditations of our minds be pure and lovely. Remind us throughout today of the wonderful qualities in our husbands that we enjoyed so much in the beginning and give us the courage to share our love with our husbands today. In Jesus name amen.