Today is day six of the Love Dare challenge. The book talks about How love is not irritable. The Love Dare book states there are at least two key reasons that contribute to people being irritable, they are: stress, selfishness. I also added lust which was talked about in the book as well.
Lets take a look at each of these reasons and then examine our lives. Once we identify areas in our lives that are causing irritability, we can take action to remove them.
Stress is defined as a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances. Now that we know what the foundation of stress is, are you stressed? If I am honest with myself, I believe I am stressed maybe not a lot but I believe I have stress in my life.
Now lets look at selfishness defined as devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare ect. I am guilty, guilty, guilty of selfishness. I often am self-centered and think about my own needs, wants, and desires before thinking about my husbands needs, wants, or desires.
Lastly, lets examine lust. Lust is defined as a strong desire for something or someone. When I hear the word lust I immediately think of a strong sexual desire but that is not the only definition of lust. Do I lust after something or someone? Yes I do, do you? I have a strong desire for another vehicle for our family, for us to own our own home, to be in better shape physically, to have a better marriage, there are so many things I have a strong desire for.
I think the real questions should be, are these strong desires consuming us? Are these desires the leading force in our lives? Are we willing to lay these lusts down and give them over to Jesus and allow our Lord to decide if they are good or not? Will we trust God’s sovereign will over every area in our lives?
I become most irritated when I don’t get my way. Interestingly enough, when I do get my way it doesn’t bring the peace and joy I have been seeking. Why? Because apart from God’s will we can’t experience the fruits of the spirit. The answers can be found in the Bible.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.
Lord Jesus let our hearts desire today be to crucify our sinful nature with all its passions and desires. God help us today to be filled with your spirit and let us experience your fruits. Jesus may you alone satisfy. Help us to not seek satisfaction from anything other than you and your word. Help us to remove those contributors in our lives that make us irritable. Replace those vacant areas with more of you and your truth. Create margins in our lives today. God consume us with your Holy Spirit in Jesus name amen.