Today we’re on day eleven of the Love Dare book. Today the reading was about how Love cherishes. I researched the following scripture in several different translations in the Bible and I found the most contemporary description came from the Message paraphrased Bible.
Ephesians 5:28-33 (MSG) says: Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church- a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor- since they’re already “one” in marriage.
No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves his father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.
Now some of us may be tempted to go down the road thinking our husband’s aren’t doing what the scriptures say. May I caution us and help us focus on our part. The scripture tells us as wives we need to honor our husband’s.
The word honor is described as: To hold someone in higher honor than myself, special merit, recognition or esteem, pleasure, pride, joy, great respect, obey, follow, fulfill an obligation. The bible tells us we are to honor our husband’s, notice the direction given by God to us isn’t contingent on our husband’s loving us or even of them deserving it. We’re called to honor our husband’s because God said to, that’s it period.
Do we honor our husband’s? Do we respect them, recognize them, pleasure them, greet them with respect, obey them, follow their leading, do we fulfill our obligations? Could you answer yes to all of those questions? I couldn’t. Did any of those go against your grain or rip at your flesh?
What we need to remember is we are following Jesus. Whatever we do to our husband’s we first do unto the Lord. We have to keep our eyes fixed on Jesus and not on our husband’s. This is the only way for us to love our spouses, whom are sinners saved by grace, just like us. Apart from Christ we can’t do what God instructs us to do with our husbands.
When we try to give honor to our husband’s or love them without doing it unto the Lord it’s like trying to charge our cell phones without plugging the charger into the outlet. We can try all day long to charge our phones but it will never work apart from plugging into the power source. We have to plug into our power source, Jesus Christ first, then and only then can we ever fully love, cherish, and honor our husbands. Apart from God we do things in our own strength and we always come up short and we’re left feeling drained and empty.
Hebrews 12:2 (NIV) says: fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Ladies today we are plugging into the only source of all power, Jesus Christ, Yahweh, El Shaddai, Sinner’s savior, Sovereign King, Lamb of God, Immanuel, Messiah, Redeemer, Holy One, Shepard, Alpha and Omega, Jehovah, King of Kings, Lamb of God, Lord of Lords, Morning star, The way, the truth and the life, Prince of Peace, Savior, and Perfecter of our Faith, the Great I AM, God is Love.
He is the only real power, and there is power in His name Jesus. As we look to Jesus, we are filled with His power to love, honor, cherish, forgive, help, esteem, obey, submit, fulfill, pleasure and recognize our husband’s, as Christ compels each one of us to do. Sweet Jesus today rid us of our stubborn flesh, show us how to submit to you, show us how to surrender and how to trust you fully. God reveal yourself in us and through us to reach deep into our husbands hearts today. God open our hearts and our eyes to the needs of our husband’s and give us your strength to help them, all for your glory in Jesus name amen.