Today is day twelve of the Love Dare book. Love lets the other win.
Philippians 2:5 (NLT) Says this: You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.
When I read the verse above I immediately think about how I don’t have the mind of Christ, most days I struggle with letting my husband win. The book spoke of being willing and said willingness is an attitude and spirit of cooperation that should permeate our conversations. Most of the time, I feel like I need to be convinced to cooperate and be flexible. On my own I am unwilling to give in because I feel like if I let others win I am losing. The truth is, love does cave, because love bends and is willing to give more than receive.
James 3:17 (NKJV) says: “The wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield.”
I want to learn to fight for my husband and our marriage, not against. Is my husband and our marriage worth fighting for? Is yours? YES!! YES!! YES!! A thousand times YES. All marriages are worth fighting for, not against. God’s love demands we give it our all.
Recently, I met a woman who has been married for 28 years. I asked her what led to her success. She shared it was a decision her and her husband came to, long ago they chose to become a united front in their parenting. But later she shared how she has had a (plan B) in her marriage and she still does. She said, “Her (plan B) is her career and it started before they were married.” She said, “He was nice in the beginning, but what if this nice man is no longer nice in five years I need a (plan B).” After 28 years this plan is still at the forefront of her mind. They have made four children together and she still has an escape plan. What’s going to happen when the last child leaves home and they are left alone with each other?
I remember having a (plan B) in our marriage too. But I made the choice long ago to give that plan up. My plan is God’s plan and His will for my life. I can’t live with one foot in my marriage and one foot out, that is not living in freedom that my friends is living in bondage and fear. We can’t love our husbands unconditionally if we are constantly living in fear wondering if our marriage is going to last or not.
There is only one way, one plan for my life and yours, and that is Jesus. We have to choose to fully trust God with our lives, husbands, and our marriages. Do we trust God with the outcome? Who and what are we fighting for, our husband’s hearts or our rights? God help us lay down our rights and send angels to guard the doors of our homes, and destroy all (plan b”s) let us choose your plan the one true plan for our lives in Jesus name amen.