Today we are on day sixteen of the Love dare. The book spoke about how love intercedes. It said, “There is no guarantee that anything in this book will change your spouse. But that’s not what this book is about. It’s about you daring to love. If you take the Love Dare seriously, there is a high likelihood that you will be personally changed from the inside out.”
Did you catch that? This book is not about changing our spouses, it’s about us changing and drawing closer to God. So many times I have read a book or a devotion hoping my husband would change and in the process the Lord revealed I was the one who needed to change. My prayer for each of us right now on day sixteen is that we would have a sobering reality check. My hope is all of us would be humbled of our pride in thinking our spouse needs to change, our spouse needs to stop doing this or that, ect. Instead we need to be saying, “Lord change me, show me my sin, show me areas in my heart that need to change.”
Are you still willing to finish strong, knowing the purpose of this book is for us. The plan is for us to grow stronger in our relationship with Jesus and in turn a huge benefit and blessing is, we would become better spouses in the process!
Matthew 7:5 (NIV) Says: You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
How can we possibly help our spouses when we can’t even see our own sin, our faults, and shortcomings? The answer is, we can’t. We have to go to Jesus and have him reveal to us the plank in our own eyes before we can help anyone else. How do we do that? We pray. We ask God to reveal himself to us and we repent of our sins to our spouses. We begin to share our weaknesses, fears, hopes and dreams with them.
The book spoke about prayer and how prayer is one of the most powerful tools we have been given by God. Do you pray with your spouse? Do you pray for them? Prayer doesn’t have to be scary and weird and all spiritual. It is simply a conversation between us and God period that’s it nothing weird. Are you willing to be vulnerable unto the Lord? Are you willing to love yourself enough to trust God and pray for your spouse’s needs and desires?
I challenge us today to share with our spouses our weaknesses and ask them to pray for us, confess our sins and ask for forgiveness. Ask your husband or wife how you can pray for them, and then pray for them right then, out loud. What do we have to lose, our pride? By all means lets lose it, lose it all, lets be foolish for Jesus. Today lets pray for our spouses and watch God move.
James 4:3 (NLT) says this: And even when you ask, you don’t get it because your motives are all wrong– you want only what will give you pleasure.
Wow, GUILTY!! Please Lord help us to release our false motives. Open our eyes to our spouse’s hearts and their needs above our own. God show yourself to us and remove the tree trunk in our own eyes so we can see clearly. Help us to intercede for our spouse’s needs, wants and their desires. God change us, and use us all for your glory, draw us close to you in Jesus name amen.