Philippians 3:14 (NIV) I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
Today is Love Dare eighteen in the Love Dare book. Love seeks to understand.
Proverbs 3:13-14 (NIV) Blessed is the man who finds wisdom, the man who gains understanding, for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold.
After reading the first paragraph I was reminded of when my husband and I were dating and I chose to understand him. We both have an unbridled passion for the Seattle Seahawks but I wasn’t always a fan.
When my husband shared his passion for the Seahawks with me, I wasn’t the least bit interested. It didn’t take long for me to figure out I had a choice to make. I either decided to embrace the Seahawks or I was going to be very unhappy and frustrated the rest of our marriage.
I chose to understand his passion. I made a decision to find out everything I could about football and the Seattle Seahawks. I asked questions about the game and I gained an understanding. I watched every game and studied the plays learning the ins and outs of the game. I learned to love his love for the game and soon it became my love.
But as time has went by I have become busy and uninterested in the games. I haven’t sat down to watch them with my husband like I used to. Today, I am convicted that I have taken a backseat to understanding his passions. So tonight when the Seahawks play the Oakland Raiders I am going to make a point of sitting down with my husband and enjoying him and the game. GO HAWKS!
Proverbs 4:25 (NIV) says: Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you.
Our spouses are right before us everyday are we fixing our gaze on them to search and understand their hearts or are we fixing our eyes on them to nag and show our disapproval of them?
What are your spouse’s passions? What are their strengths? What do they love to do that maybe you can’t imagine doing? Today make a decision in your heart to try to understand them. Ask them questions about why they like what they like? Gain knowledge on the subjects they love. Choose to have a willing and teachable heart.
My husband likes politics, government and history. He has a great comprehension of all three, and it came from studying what he loved and gaining understanding. I never liked any of those things until we were married, but now I love both history and politics. I have gained knowledge and understanding about these things because of my husband’s willingness to teach me. One of my husband’s greatest strengths is, he is an amazing teacher.
Lord today as we choose to seek understanding in our spouses I pray our hearts would be soft and teachable. Help us to see new things with a fresh perspective. Give us courage to try different things, help us to be foolish for you. Show us how to love the one right in front of us, our spouses. Show us how to create a safe environment where our spouses can share their greatest hopes and fears without condemnation. Lord reveal to us how to encourage them, pray with them and for them. God glorify your son through us, in Jesus name amen.
Hebrews 12:2 (NIV) Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.