Today is day twenty three in the love dare book. Love always protects. Protection is described as: to keep from being damaged, attacked, stolen, injured; guard.
In the book it spoke about how, “Wives-you have a role as protector in your marriage. You must guard your heart from being led away….” This is a big one for women and I know I may ruffle some feathers by saying what I am about to say, but its the truth and the truth hurts.
Ladies, talk shows are fantasy period and they have no place in a married woman’s life, they pull her away from reality into fantasy and it creates division within a marriage. Soap operas are a form of pornography and draw women away from their spouse emotionally and invite thoughts of infidelity into marriage. Fantasizing about other men and women is adultery. The bible is very clear about this.
Matthew 5:27-28 (NIV) says: You have heard that it was said, “Do not commit adultery.” But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
This scripture is for woman as well, not just men. Are we committing adultery in our minds?” Before I was married I was faithful to watch my soap opera, “Days of our lives.” I was faithful to watch my talk shows, Oprah, Dr. Phil, and even the morning news, you know the news they call news but really its a gossip show.
Everyday I watched my soap opera, I would come away with new ideas of how to lie, cheat, and plot an affair. I would fantasize about “the perfect man.” The talk shows would encourage me to live my life like the people in Hollywood, because the shows would glamorize their sin. Soon I was justifying my own sin because after all, other people were doing it. All I heard was a watered down message with spiritual undertones about liberating women, I knew something wasn’t right but I would rationalize it was okay.
Soon after Jesus came into my life, I was convicted about the books I read, the television shows I watched and the music I had listened to. In the stillness of my heart I could feel I was being led away from the Lord. Whatever we put into our bodies through the words we read, the shows we watch, and the music we hear has the power to draw us closer to the Lord or pull us away.
Am I ruffling any feathers yet? Are you justifying your habits in your own mind? Your not alone, I did that too, because I didn’t know the truth. But now you do, and you have a decision to make. If you know your marriage has a parasite in it sucking the life out of it, are you going to allow it to stay? Evaluate your life are you guarding your heart or are you being led astray? Love protects remember? Are you protecting your marriage?
Another topic the book spoke about was unhealthy relationships. It said, “In fact, anyone who undermines your marriage does not deserve to be given the title of “friend.” Look at your family and friends, examine past conversations. Do they speak kindly about your spouse? Do they value your marriage? Do they speak kindly about their spouse in front of you? The people we allow to speak into our life have great influence in our lives.
Proverbs 13:20 (NIV) says: He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.
Today may be the turning point in your marriage, are you willing to draw near to God? The bible says in James 4:7-8 (NLT) So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world.
The first step we need to take is to humble ourselves before God. We need to confess we have been wrong and ask God to forgive us. Then we need to resist the devil, and the temptation. We have to choose to not do those things or listen to those conversations anymore instead, we flee, we go the other way. We draw close to God, we pray, and read the bible. We choose to watch and listen to television shows, media, and music that honor God. On purpose we choose family and friends who speak kindly of their spouses and who encourage and value not only their marriages but ours as well. We need to protect and guard our hearts.
Jesus open our eyes today to the things that have led us astray. Show us our sin and protect us from the devils schemes. Shine your light into dark areas of our hearts that we don’t know exist, show us the way, the truth, and the life in Jesus name amen.