Today is Love Dare twenty-six, love is responsible. The definition of responsible is having an obligation to do something, or having control over or care for someone, as part of one’s job or role. Synonyms for the word responsible are liable, answerable to blame, and accountable its no wonder some people think of being responsible as a bad thing. Who wants to be liable, answerable to blame or accountable?
To be responsible for someone or something doesn’t mean the person does it exceptionally. They may not be equipped or well suited to be successful. It means the expectation, the ground rules are set but the degree to which it is done correctly or appropriately is based upon each individual.
I became a mother at age nineteen. I was responsible for a new beautiful baby girl, my daughter. I became responsible, to feed her, care for her, teach her, love her, protect her, nurture her and discipline her. Although I had become responsible for my daughter I was not mentally or emotionally prepared for the sheer magnitude my everyday decisions would have on her. I was barely capable of taking care of myself at that time, let alone a new baby.
In 2005, I married the love of my life, my husband, my best friend. I accepted Jesus earlier that same year. I became we, single no more now married forever. All of a sudden I had a new responsibility I was a wife and a step-mother. I look back on our earlier years of marriage and there were some rough times. Even though we knew what the Bible said about marriage that didn’t make it easy.
When life threw a curve ball in your marriage like a miscarriage, a job loss, health problems, financial crisis, or death in the family, how did you react? Being responsible means taking the initiative on your own to find a resolution. Sometimes the only thing that can be done is to grieve, pray and listen. Other times its applying for a job, maybe its taking the medication that will heal the sickness.
When things go a different path then what we expected in our marriage, it’s our responsibility to seek out the other and help them. Even though we may have put on the title of (responsible) in the context of adulthood’ we are still capable of being irresponsible in loving our spouse.
Today my prayer for all of us is to understand the full magnitude that our choices, attitudes and behaviors have on our spouses. I hope that today the Lord would show us areas we need to work on our own responsibility of our wrongs and shortcomings in our marriage. God start with us , heal us, transform us, use us for your glory in Jesus name amen.
1 Corinthians 3:8 (NIV)
The one who plants and the one who waters have one purpose, and they will each be rewarded according to their own labor.