A rose is a beautiful picture of several different petals all interwoven together, cleaving to each other, to form one perfect rose. If the petals decided to go their own way and move away from each other, the rose would no longer be a rose. All that would be left would be a pile of separated petals no longer unified.
Today is love dare thirty-one, the book speaks about leaving and cleaving.
Genesis 2:24 (NIV)
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother, and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
On the wall in our home we have a framed Oneness Covenant that my husband and I signed together. It reads the following:
We believe God created marriage to be holy, to exemplify the glorious, eternal marriage between His son and His Church.
We believe our marriage is a sacred and lifelong covenant.
We believe God calls us to pursue unconditional love for each other as modeled by HIs promise never to leave or forsake us.
Therefore, we, the undersigned, pledge to fulfill our marriage vows and pursue oneness. We further pledge to bring glory to God through our sacred permanent marriage, and by calling others to fulfill their marriage vows.
IN THE PRESENCE OF GOD AND THESE WITNESSES,
we agree to joyfully receive each other as God’s perfect gift; to have and to hold from this day forward; for better and for worse; for richer and for poorer; in sickness and in health; to love, honor, cherish, and protect one another; forsaking all others as long as we both shall live, so help us God.
One thing that really sticks out to me in the above covenant is the words forsaking all others. All others means: family, friends, co-workers, and even children. We forsake, abandon, desert, cast aside, all others for our spouses, period. No person or thing should come in between a husband and wife, a marriage, nothing, ever.
John 17:23 (NIV)
I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.
Colossians 3:12-17 (NIV)
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
Are we so interwoven with your spouse that an outsider looking in can’t tell where we end and our spouse’s begin? In our marriages, are we both so unified together we display a beautiful picture bringing glory to God? Is our marriage one that beckons others to fulfill their commitment to one another? Do we need to cleave from our parents? Do we need to support and encourage our children to leave and cleave to their spouse?
Cleave is defined as to split or sever something, especially along a natural line or grain. Make a way through (something) forcefully, as if by splitting it apart.
Oneness is defined as the fact or state of being unified or whole, though comprised of two or more parts. The fact or state of being one in number.
Please Lord help us today to answer the call in our marriages, to leave and cleave our parents, forsaking all others and become one flesh. God may our marriages reflect your love and glorify your name.