Today is Love Dare thirty-two, Love meets sexual needs. The book stated, “When the love of Christ is the foundation of your marriage, the strength of your friendship and sexual relationship can be enjoyed at a level this world can never know.”
Does this describe your marriage? If you said yes, Praise God because it is truly a gift to be thankful for. If you said no, or I don’t know, Praise God for that too, because sexual intimacy within your marriage can be enjoyed. With God at the center and His love in your heart your marriage and sexual relationship can be extraordinary. Your friendship with your spouse can be sweeter than you ever imagined with Jesus at the center.
So many of us have sexual hurts in our past. We have been wounded and we now have a huge wall in our heart that is guarded better than Fort Knox. I understand I sympathize, because I too have been hurt sexually many times, but I am not defined by it any longer.
I have tasted freedom from the bondage I was once in. In the past, I wrestled with fear, insecurity and pain because of what was done to me. For many years I just went through the motions of sex not truly enjoying intimacy because of shame. Because of my past I thought sex was dirty, not Holy. I viewed sex as a ritual to just get done. I refused to be vulnerable because of fear I would be hurt again. God’s word says to trust Him and not to rely on our own thoughts or understandings.
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
Today lets confess to the Lord those walls we’ve built up in our hearts. Throw all fear and shame out the window and replace them with freedom, honor, grace and courage. Share with your spouse your past hurts, shame and guilt. Choose today to tear down the walls in your heart one brick at a time. Step out of your comfort zone and be vulnerable and real with your spouse and watch God show up in your obedience. Trust God with your whole life, past, present, and future. Give yourself fully to your spouse today, dive in head first without fear.
Galatians 5:1 (NIV)
It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.
John 8:34-36 (NIV)
Jesus replied, “I tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave to sin. Now a slave has no permanent place in the family, but a son belongs to it forever. So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.
Great marriages were not built behind fortified walls with iron gates and electric fences. Marriages that are solid, built on God’s foundation, are those who’ve been fortified through the battlefields of war and have withstood the testing. Strong marriages have been tested. These marriages involve two people whom are vulnerable with one another and lay down their lives for each other every day.
Lord help us to lay down our lives for our spouses today. Give us a desire to search our spouses wants and desires before our own. God may you be the guard and protector of our hearts. Replace the locked doors in our hearts with an open door and throw away the key. Show us how to be vulnerable and real with our spouses. God heal our marriages and continue to build a solid foundation. Stretch us today to love our spouses as ourselves. May you Jesus alone be glorified.