Today is day thirty-seven of the Love Dare book, Love agrees in prayer. The book said, “It’s hard to stay angry long with someone for whom you’re praying. It’s hard not to back down when you’re hearing your mate humbly cry out to God and beg Him for mercy in the midst of your heated crisis.”
Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV) says:
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
There have been too many of these instances in my marriage where I have been angry and right in the middle of a heated argument my husband will say, “Can we pray?” More times than not I would say, “No I don’t feel like it, you go ahead.” He would then pray out loud and in the midst of his prayers God would soften my heart and would take the anger and hurt away. When I wasn’t willing to pray, hearing my husband cry out to God and pray for me was supernatural and it melted my heart. By no means am I suggesting you take this road and refuse to pray. I have learned and am still learning, to pray during a disagreement and God always shows up and heals our hearts, ALWAYS.
In Luke 6:27-28 it says:
“But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
Over six years ago I was falsely accused of some horrific things. Several people came against me and my husband and told lies about us. I remember one morning I was in the shower getting ready for church and knelt down on my knees and started praying. I prayed for the usual people I pray for and then the names of the people who had falsely accused me started to flood my mind. I immediately argued with the Lord and said, “God its too hard for me to pray for them right now.” I pleaded my case to Him, “look what they did to me, and look what they said about me. How can I forgive them?” Then I very clearly heard His voice say, “Teandra look what was done to me on the cross, they are my children too and they are forgiven, my blood that was shed on the cross also covers their sins. He then said, “I want you to ask for prayer for all of them at church today.”
I was so overcome with emotion I was sobbing in the shower. I remember praying for each one of them by name fervently on their behalf. I prayed for God to not only save them, but to bless them. Later at church we asked for prayer concerning the false allegations against us and after the church body had prayed for us, I then stood up and asked the Pastor, “Can we please pray for all the other parties involved as well?” I remember shaking because it went against my flesh to pray for those who had caused me such great pain. It was one of the most difficult things I have ever done, to love my enemies, do good to them that hated me, bless those who cursed me, and pray for those who mistreated me. That day God began a work in my heart to forgive them all, through prayer.
What does prayer mean to you? Is it a daily ritual that has no substance? Is it non-existent? Is it only when your alone and never with someone or for someone, for fear of what they might say? We need to be a people who pray and pray without ceasing. Can you imagine having a relationship with your Father and never speaking or communicating with Him. Prayer is our language to God, it is how we communicate to Him and often times, how He speaks to us. Many times God has spoken to me through prayer. Sometimes it was when I prayed alone, other times when I prayed with someone or for someone. God has the power to change our hearts and our lives through prayer if we’re willing.
Prayer is intimate and it can be uncomfortable at times and it has the tendency to make us feel vulnerable. Prayer is the thoughts in our heads, the secret conversations we have inside the recesses of our minds. At first in can be scary if you’ve never done it, but one thing you can be sure of, God is and always will be there when we step out into obedience to Him.
2 Chronicles 7:14 (KJV)
If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
God’s word is clear. We need to do the following:
3)Seek His face
4)Turn from our wicked ways
Then this is what He will do….Hear us, Forgive us, and Heal us. How many of us don’t pray with our spouses to begin with? How many of us don’t seek His face through His word and through prayer? Lastly how many of us have unconfessed sins in our life that hinder our prayers? We can’t get our prayers to be effective when we are actively living in sin and refuse to repent. Trust me I know! How many times in my life have I prayed and prayed for something with no results then I get right with God, confess my sins and BAM my prayers were answered. It’s not rocket science here people, this is simple truth, straight from God’s word.
Lord God help us to see our own sins, and give us courage to repent. Jesus burden our hearts for prayer and a desire to want to communicate with you above all else. Give us a love for our spouses to want to connect with them on an intimate level through prayer. God show off to your people who step out of the boat courageously and start praying with their spouses today. Guard there hearts from any discouragement and even if the other spouse says, “NO” to prayer like I did, let the prayers still be heard and use them to soften their hearts, heal and restore their marriages in Jesus name amen.